Why blame children
Nowadays Parents have many complaints from their children. These complaints are not simple. They are blaming their children. Which is affecting their relationship. Why we always try to blame the children. Have we ever noticed what a child wants? A child wants our love and care. It’s a simple deal but how many times we try to understand them. Instead we want them to understand us. How much time we give to them.
TO BE A PARENT IS A BLESSING BUT HOW WE MAKE THIS BLESSING A CURSE FOR US.
We are the ones to blame because a child gains everything from its surroundings. When a child is small we show them toys, takes them to the parks and takes them for shopping. Then we let them demand from us. At first we like it because it is a healthy child response. But then these demands starts growing bigger & then we start panic and blaming our children. Aren’t we are the ones who put the element of desire in them. We let our children play violent video games and let them watch violent movies and then we blame them for being violent and aggressive. Sometimes we are violent in our own house. I give you an example. A man who is beating his wife is watched by his son. Now when his son grows up he beats his wife also. Father questions him why did you beat your wife so badly and the son replies were you not beating my mother in same way. REMEMBER HOME IS THE FIRST SCHOOL OF OUR CHILDREN.
We must accept that we try to humiliate our children and destroy their sense of ego. We blame our children of not respecting us but how much respect we give to them. These are the reasons why our children are so desperate frustrated and depressed and feel neglected. Why our children are committing suicide or they are taking revenge from the society by killing and shooting people.
KIDS ARE BEAUTIFUL CREATURES THEY ARE JUST LIKE LITTLE ANGELS AND HOW WE LET THEM TURN IN DEVILS
We are responsible for our child acts. We as parents are not doing our duty faithfully. How could we expect something good in return to us? The more annoying child you have the more annoying parent you are. Why not we ask questions to ourselves.what kids are we raising suiciders, bombing suiciders, criminals, terrorists. What kind of future we are offering them. What choices we are giving them. We are the ones who try to keep distance from them try to avoid them & always try pushing them back. And these distances grew more and more, which could never be covered again. Why we let our children feel so lonely with no one to stand by them. And we unaware of the consequences go on. And our relationship ends on hatred. When our children grows they don’t want to see their parents anymore. Of course none of us would like such a sad end.
Here are some tips, which can keep our relationship healthy & beautiful and can save from such a devasting end.
1. Question them more and more so that you can understand them
2. Show them that you love and care
3. In panic situation don’t try to yell communicate with them in a soft voice.
4. Give them as much time as possible.
5. Try to give answers to their questions even stupid questions because you can answer them wisely.
6. Make them understand that you know them and understand them.
7. Don’t try to expect them perfect and don’t make them feel that they should be as perfect as you were at their age.
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SUMAIRA AZIM "braveheartpk2002@yahoo.com"
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